A Sugar Relationship is defined by a Sugar Daddy who provides mentorship and financial assistance to a Sugar Baby. A sugar daddy is a generous older man who spends lavishly on his mistress, girlfriend or boyfriend. The Sugar Relationship can take on many forms in regards to length of the relationship, the duration of dates, the frequency of dates, and the goals of both the Sugar Daddy and the Sugar Baby. The dynamics of this relationship are no different from dating in general. They can share together, eat together and spend time together. Generally, a sugar daddy is someone who has already earned a large income. Usually works as a businessman. Even though they are married, they openly open their personal lives that have many girls around them. A sugar baby, meanwhile, is usually a younger woman who cannot afford to buy her luxurious lifestyle. Generally, their age are 20-30 years old. In addition, these girls also need an extra pocket for living expenses like paying rent and paying tuition. Because they don't have a lot of money, they are feel disposed to be sugar baby. (Harumi)
The term “Sugar Relationship” may sound like a modern slang that has only been used in this day and age, but it has actually existed for so long that it has become socially acceptable. Centuries ago, though it may not be called Sugar Relationship, even the great kings such as King Henry II was in a Sugar Relationship with Diane de Poitiers, his chief mistress. The kings and their mistress paved the way for the existence of Sugar Relationship now. The term “Sugar Daddy” first appeared in the early 1900s, and by 1926 it had become a well-known slang. In this modern era, most Sugar Relationship are online, and there are multiple social media that give the platform for it. Different from the mistress from centuries ago, rather than just wanting mere expensive jewelry or golds, modern Sugar Babies are in Sugar Relationship to help them pay for their education or lifestyle. (Sabrina)
Terms about sugar relationship, this far, is tend to be defined as a negative thing by the society. Some people even thought that being a sugar baby in the relationship is the same as being a sex worker, while it is actually not. Sex workers is an illegal act, maybe not anymore in some states for nowadays era but being a sugar baby? It never has been defined as something that is against the law. People would think that being in a sugar relationship would be all about pleasing each other through sex. The fact is, sugar relationship is not always about that. It could be just about sending pictures, accompanying the sugar daddy to have some coffee in a coffee shop and any other things that could make both sides happy. Sugar relationship could be considered as an illegal act if, one side get a payment or material for sex act (this is better define as a sex worker). (Adzra)
Sugar relationship have many drawbacks that people must consider before doing it as it’s a relationship with no emotional string called love attached between both parties. That can cause one party to be dependent and become parasitic to the other party to gain materialistic benefits by offering intimacy as payment. Some consider this as modern prostitution where young women ‘sugar babies’ are courtesans hired by rich men ‘sugar daddies’ as their temporary partners. As this relationship often happens through dating-app where data falsification for purpose of scamming others is possible as both don’t know each other before dating. Home-wrecking is a phenomenon that often happens in this relationship as a third party comes in between somebody’s marriage as one party might be already married. There is also negative social impact to be considered as both parties become socially isolated as they hide their relationship in secret even from their families. (Josep)
In conclusion, the sugar relationship phenomenon in which the ‘Baby’ was given a financial assistance from the ‘Daddy’ by doing certain intimacies or just spending time together according to Seeking. These arrangement has been going on since King Henry II’s era and it has grown eversince. In spite of knowing the consequences, and being put in a bad light by the public, these Sugar Baby does not shied away. Modern prostitution, home wrecker and parasite are the stigma attached to these Babies. Some also experience scam and great loss. But if we look at it from a different view, it also has its benefits for the people involved—the Sugar Baby and Daddy. The service given, is not just about sex as most people thought. Like mentioned before, there are Sugar Baby who only accompany the Daddy to have some coffee. In addition, it is not an illegal act. So, in reality it may or may not be as sweet as it seems, depending on each relationships, and do it at your own risk! (Natasya)